There are different schools of thought when it comes to including children in your weddings. Mine is neither the most popular, nor politically correct…However, mine will insure a smooth wedding ceremony.
Weddings and children go together as well as gasoline and an open flame
. The last place a child wants to be is someplace crowded with a lot of people (whom they’ve probably have never seen before) and where they are forced to be quiet. (Which seldom ever happens when the child is under 8)
I can tell you, having performed over 7000 weddings, that when couples who included children were asked, after the ceremony, if they could change “one thing...Almost all of the couples wish they had NOT included kids. Even if they had attended a wedding where there were disruptive children, We are all inclined to think that “it couldn’t happen to me”
A wedding is a sacred passage in ones lifetime; Not to mention a very expensive one. Brides do everything to insure that their day will be a perfect one. The Dress…The Flowers…The Photographer… She is well deserving that the focus for this once in a lifetime moment be on her, and her handsome groom.
Now imagine that Aunt Donna’s son Skyler wont stop talking…or worse yet… does something to steal the spotlight!
And if the child is a “ham”…and enjoys getting the attention…
they feel they have nothing to loose, and not surprisingly begin acting out becoming “The star of the show”
Suddenly your beautiful, and expensive wedding is remembered by your guests as the wedding where the “kid acted like a brat, and ruined the wedding”
NOBODY NEEDS THAT!
While on the front end...It sounds beautiful to include children in your wedding ceremony...Why not bring them out at the reception, after the wedding is over.
Consider providing a nursery, or game room for younger children. Make sure its staffed with an adult. This way, your wedding will remain as smooth as you have envisioned it to be.
